“People without good sense find fault with their neighbors, but those with understanding keep quiet.”
WHAT DOES IT MEAN?: Have you ever been around someone who talks about other people non-stop? How about someone who finds something wrong with everyone they meet? Chances are, this is a person who lacks wisdom. A wise person doesn’t find fault or point fingers, but tries to understand other people. If someone does something that you don’t like or understand, there is probably a reason they do it. They aren’t just “weird” or “crazy.” If you try to understand someone’s idiosyncrasies, you will get to know them better, and you might even like them. If you just write everything that is different off as weird, you’re headed for a life of loneliness.
This also applies to arguments. A person who argues about everything and doesn’t know how to pick their battles, isn’t going to have a lot of friends. If you are wise, or as this quote says, “understanding,” you’ll find yourself keeping quiet if something one of your friends does bothers you but isn’t that big of a deal. If you disagree with someone, it’s always better to try to understand someone before you take them on.
WHERE DOES IT COME FROM: The Book of Proverbs, chapter 11, verse 12.
“Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people.” -Often attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt
“It is better to remain silent at the risk of being thought a fool, than to talk and remove all doubt of it.” -Maurice Switzer